Upsets seem to be caused by what happens but they're not. Upsets are caused by your fighting and resisting what happens.To see this in your life, select a recent upset, Now notice what would happen if somehow you were at peace with what happened.There would be no upset.
There would be no upset because upsets aren't caused by what happened. Upsets are caused by fighting and resisting what happened.The moment you take away the fighting and resisting, the upset disappears.